| I recently received an email from a wife who was | | | | easy way to keep in touch. There's also a sense of |
| very troubled by her husband's new habit of leaving | | | | flirtatiousness about that seems to go hand and hand |
| the room when he texting. Lately, he'd been | | | | with infidelity. |
| attempting to text in secret. Eventually this bothered | | | | And here's something else that I've noticed. Men |
| the wife enough that she decided to confront the | | | | rarely text message each other for extended periods |
| husband about it. He told her that he was only | | | | of time. Sure, they might send a quick message |
| texting his male friends and that it was silly for her to | | | | asking what time tonight's game is, but they aren't |
| make such a big deal about it. His exact response | | | | going to type back and forth to another man for |
| was "This is silly. We're not 16 years old. You know | | | | very long. They quickly get bored with this and they |
| that you can trust me." | | | | tend to just pick up the phone if they want to have |
| This didn't ring true for the wife. The husband was in | | | | a long conversation with another guy. There is |
| the practice of talking to his friends right in front of | | | | always an exception of course, but it makes sense |
| her all the time. Why then, could he not have this | | | | to have concerns when you see an adult guy |
| same kind of transparency when he was typing the | | | | spending a lot of private time messaging. Many men |
| words rather than saying them? There are many | | | | tell me that if are going to spend a lot of time with |
| reasons that spouses try to hide their texts or | | | | this, it's likely that there's flirting or picture messaging |
| isolate themselves when messaging. And some of | | | | going on in order to hold their interest for this long. |
| these reasons aren't good ones. I will discuss this | | | | Innocent Reasons That People Want Privacy When |
| more in the following article. | | | | Texting: As I said, there are innocent reasons for this |
| Deceitful Reasons That People Try To Hide Their | | | | sometimes. In one instance, I had a woman who was |
| Text Messages From Their Spouses: Of course, deep | | | | emailing me about this very thing. I helped her find a |
| in her heart, the wife suspected the husband of | | | | way to read the deleted messages and she felt so |
| wrong doing. This was a new behavior for him and | | | | silly when she found out that her husband had been |
| the guilty look on his face combined with his secrecy | | | | communicating with her sister about a surprise party |
| made the wife very suspicious that he was texting | | | | for her. Occasionally, things like this do happen but |
| another woman rather than a male friend. This is a | | | | this seems to be the exception rather than the rule. |
| very common occurrence. If the husband was having | | | | Still, it might be a good idea to ask yourself if you've |
| an innocent conversation and had nothing to hide, | | | | seen any other weird behaviors to tell you if you are |
| why did have the weird obsession with privacy that | | | | on the right track. |
| he did? | | | | And, if you really do need to know for sure if there |
| I have a blog that seems to attract a lot of spouses | | | | is anything wrong, you can always get a hold of the |
| who have either cheated or who suspect cheating | | | | phone and read those messages, especially if this is |
| and, because of this, I can say with a reasonable | | | | really bothering you so much that it's negatively |
| degree of certainty that texting is a very common | | | | affecting the relationship. In this case, the woman's |
| way to communicate with someone that you are | | | | husband had deleted the messages, which is not |
| seeing on the sly. People think that the evidence can | | | | surprising. But there are ways to read even long |
| be quickly deleted and it's a quick, immediate and | | | | erased messages so that you will have your answer. |